Boundaries & Self-reflective practice

Boundaries

Boundaries in relationships are simply the way we let others and ourselves know how we want to be treated. It is the permission to be our Authentic Selves, which respects our own uniqueness.

Boundaries may come in the form of physical, emotional, time, sexual, intellectual, financial, professional.

Often people are not trying to violate your limits—they just aren't aware of what they are. Clarity is the key. As Brene Brown says, “Clear is kind”. And sometimes, these boundaries are crossed because we are not even clear with ourselves.

Setting boundaries requires introspection, the skill of assertive communication and courage to shake up old patterns.

Sometimes people will not like your new instilled sense of self but that’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is always to yourself first and foremost. The right people will stay and support you.

Reflective questions to ask yourself in relation to personal boundaries:

1. What boundary may I need to articulate and set in order to feel safe, protected, free and empowered?

2. How will I ensure that the boundaries in my life are maintained?

3. How ready am I to being introspective?

4. How emotionally available am I to myself and other important figures in my life?

5. How can I add more clarity into my life?